Focusing on "Preferred State"? Hello!
I'm new here (just recently introduced myself in the "General" thread if you're curious. I'm already enjoying the intelligent discussions going on in this forum!
Just wanted to throw this out there-- I am able to very clearly identify what I want, set goals, stuff like that (it took awhile for me to be able to do this without my inner voice going "you can't get that!", so I'm really proud of that). I meditate, take "inspired action," exercise, continually improve myself, do gratitude exercises every day, all of that stuff.
Here's the challenge I'm experiencing at the moment: once I've identified a "preferred state," (say, a new living situation, a more tranquil environment, more money coming in, etc), then I really notice the situation I'm trying to leave behind. It's almost as if identifying a "preferred state" throws the current one into a negative light by contrast. I think this might be why I avoided setting goals in the first place.
From an Abraham-Hicks perspective, I guess this discomfort could be seen as a good thing, although once I let it upset me, they would probably say that I am throwing myself out of vibrational harmony, making it less likely I'm going to achieve that goal. Then again, according to John Randolph Price, once a goal is set, you are supposed to literally try to IGNORE outward circumstance (so that it will die on the vine). This makes me wonder if one is supposed to consider "not getting" the goal (in the present) as part of getting the goal (in the future), or if something ELSE needs to change in order to shift things and get them going.
My problem is, when outward circumstance DOESN'T change, I start to get depressed, wonder what I'm doing wrong, etc. For instance, why am I still living in a townhouse, when for two years I've been visualizing my million-dollar mansion? It's not like I stop to think this all the time and put alot of energy toward it, but every once in awhile when I'm reviewing my goals, I have to think "hey, I'm still here! I can still hear my neighbor's stereo, even though in my mind I live on a private compound." I mean, some discomfort is normal, right, because that's what pushes us to be more successful? How, then, to totally ignore it?
Anyone have this problem? Any thoughts? Feel free to tell me I'm way overthinking everything.
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