Hi there, I LOVE EFT and it has helped me tremendously this year. I lost my 22 yo son in February and I don't know how I would have got through without tapping. It is magic for me. Congratulations on finding something that works for you too.
Although I personally don't, I believe a lot of people have trouble with the accepting self bit. One way of getting around this is to use the choices method. Might be worth trying if you haven't already.
You can tap on something like "Even though I don't love and accept myself at all, but and it feels hollow saying it because I hate myself, I now choose to believe that I might be able to accept myself, just a little" or whatever choice feels right for you.
I read an interesting article about forgiving just 1% with EFT yesterday. I think that could work too for acceptance of self - which I see as really forgiving oneself. Loving and accepting oneself just 1% sounds like something most could do. If you are interested it is here:
New Uses for EFT
love and light
Jan