Originally Posted by elainevdw
I believe there's a certain energetic level to it, as well. You can have all the right looks, clothes, and moves but have no charisma whatsoever. What you're describing with a person immediately lighting up a room and commanding respect -- that's a reflecting of strong inner character, confidence and purpose, what new agey people would attribute to their aura.
I have to agree with this. I believe it boils down to energy. People who have energy have charisma. They can be ugly, unsophiticated, wear ordinary clothes but you can feel that they exude something - energy.
As for developing charisma, I believe it can acheived by reducing energy wastage, like what some forumers had suggested:
abstinence - sexual acts expands energy.
living in the now, being aware - concern for self saps energy.
live a truthful life - strengthens the will which in turn draw in energy.
An easier way is to "steal" it from others by being in the center of attention - when you get attention, you get energy. That may explain why some not-so-bright politicians are quite charismatic.