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ABdude · 11-25-2007, 11:38 PM

I know the topic of rejection has come up a few times, but to be honest I would like a personal take on it.

As the above title suggests, I seem to have a fear, actually a phobia of rejection. This is not just rejection of the opposite sex, which is, I will admit a not-so-small problem, but rejection in general, be it from a guy, a girl, a child, a job, heck even over the internet. Whenever I do get rejected for whatever reason, the first person I seem to blame is myself. I think to myself that it is something I did or the way I acted that caused a person to reject me in whatever form. It never really occurs to me that it might be the other person, or circumstance that causes the rejection.

Ironically, I have felt rejection almost all my life. As a child I was the person everyone (including the other social rejects), picked on. I have been rejected from more than one woman, and have been rejected from hundreds of jobs I have applied for. You would think that after all this time I would become desensitized to it all but in fact the reverse is true. Every time I feel rejected for whatever reason it brings back all of the other rejections I have felt over my lifetime.

Bottom line, I seriously think that if I do not put a stop to this fear that I will go insane. Does anyone have any tips on how I can finally overcome this fear?

11-25-2007, 11:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
ABdude Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 78	Rejection phobia I know the topic of rejection has come up a few times, but to be honest I would like a personal take on it. As the above title suggests, I seem to have a fear, actually a phobia of rejection. This is not just rejection of the opposite sex, which is, I will admit a not-so-small problem, but rejection in general, be it from a guy, a girl, a child, a job, heck even over the internet. Whenever I do get rejected for whatever reason, the first person I seem to blame is myself. I think to myself that it is something I did or the way I acted that caused a person to reject me in whatever form. It never really occurs to me that it might be the other person, or circumstance that causes the rejection. Ironically, I have felt rejection almost all my life. As a child I was the person everyone (including the other social rejects), picked on. I have been rejected from more than one woman, and have been rejected from hundreds of jobs I have applied for. You would think that after all this time I would become desensitized to it all but in fact the reverse is true. Every time I feel rejected for whatever reason it brings back all of the other rejections I have felt over my lifetime. Bottom line, I seriously think that if I do not put a stop to this fear that I will go insane. Does anyone have any tips on how I can finally overcome this fear?