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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo  I wasn't cheating, I asked both guys if they agree before doing it. One of them had no other relationship, and one of them had another girlfriend. When she needed him, I didn't mind him staying with her. If one of them needed me or had a problem, I was there no matter what. Being there for more than one person is not a big deal. I do that for all of my friends too.
Plus, when you have two partners it's not necessarily the case that these partners never see each other and hate each other, so that you have to choose whom you will see. You can spend time all together. Peace and Love  |
It's always refreshing to see someone who doesn't feel such a need to place shackles upon other's hearts. To me, having more than one person in your life facilitates loving each person for who they are, not needing them to be EVERYTHING for you. Plenty of people have experienced being with one person and suddenly finding themselves caring for someone else.
The idea of open/multiple relationships is simply that loving someone new needn't require abandoning the person you're already with if you still care for them. It also allows for partners to be honest about their desires and experiences, rather than feeling a need to hide liaisons from one another. An open/polyamorous relationship is very different from cheating, and for it to work a more conscious commitment/interaction is required for things to go smoothly.
Not everyone will go for a non-monogamous relationship, and you're better off not getting into what that says about how evolved they are. Respect their feelings and decide whether you're okay with being in a strictly one on one relationship with them or if you need to move on. (this last paragraph is just general advice, not directed towards anyone in particular who has posted on this thread)