Face-to-face communication is mainly non-verbal. If the words don't match up with the face and body and eyes...then it doesn't matter what you say.
Spontaneous words probably get better response, because you're acting naturally and consistently. When someone stops you suddenly, you say, "I'm surprised!" and your pupils, your shoulders, everything about you also reinforces the words.
People who don't speak often, or more slowly, are even more dependent on non-verbal cues. Some people, when they take time in answering, are shifty eyed or have facial ticks. They can't control it, and they are often imperceptible. However, the other person can "sense" something is wrong. (Expert con men are masters of controlling their non-verbal cues)
Then again, there are some people who take time in answering, yet when they do speak, their words carry deep and powerful impact. It's because all the non-verbal cues show them to be strong and trustworthy.
Again, it's not important what you say. It's whether your words and actions match. And...your non-verbal cues are much more important than verbal.
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