Originally Posted by sadavis00
I would like to know, because it will give me some ability to better relate to people, if I know that what lies beneath a person is not simply his unarticulated feelings, but also articulated speech. If I know people to conduct an inner monologue similar to how they speak, I think I can truly "understand" a person, know them inside and out, instead of knowing the outside (the conversation). Basically, if I can simply know the form of how people think, I can more easily relate to people, even if I don't know the content of their thoughts.
I'm not sure this is possible.
What the average person expresses externally is filtered, based on culture and society. Much of what goes on in internal dialogue is not acceptable in polite society.
There is no way to know the depths of someone's internal dialogue. There is no real "form" either. Depending on your relationship to the person (friend? family? significant other?), situation (work? personal?), recent history (did they experience death of a loved one? raise at work? started taking drugs?), etc.., there are infinite forms.
If you want to better relate to yourself, then meditation and mindful awareness will help you tremendously (it has helped me). However, being aware of yourself doesn't automatically translate into better relations - it certainly is a foundation. However, better relating to others is a complicated interaction of knowing yourself, practice, knowing social norms, knowing how to boost others positive feelings, etc.