I've noticed that I end up struggling for things more than I would like but am unsure of the reason for this. When I look at deeply held beliefs I find that I tend to think "If I struggle for things, I deserve them" but , "If it is handed to me on a platter I would feel bad about taking it" . My parents both struggled for everything they ever achieved, my dad started picking cotton when he was 7-8 years old, and his entire life since then has been a continuous saga of hard work, no rest, no play. I find myself being forced into the same mold and I don't really care for it. In my "yikes" thread I mentioned my latest series of disasters , which always seem to occur "just when it's getting good". I know that the reason has to to do with my unconscious beliefs but it seems that I am powerless to change them. If I could start over today I would definitely leave 'struggle' and 'hard work' out of the equation. Give me 'ease and comfort' any day.
I think 'choosing challenges' is like choosing bigger crossword puzzles, it's fine as long as your life doesn't depend on it and you can opt out whenever you want , but when you are 'stuck on challenge' it gets tiresome to deal with tragedy after tragedy.
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