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Originally Posted by Angelwings  Hi everyone.
I realised much of my prespective about reality, insecurities, fault thinking, negativity, stress, worry could be due to unconscious influnced by sarcastic, unmotivated, less action oriented friends of mine.
My friends are full of BS, they complain alot more than taking Actions. I realised much of my Doom and complaining attitude somehow I m behaving like them too.
I know i shouldnt let external reality influence me; but i cant but unsconciously slowly influenced- its like the pharse " You're are who u hang out with" Its not easy to stay positive when my friends are so negative all the time, I m trying to get out of negative state and install a new positive believes but my friends are constantly rubbing off their negative doom attitudes on me.
Here's my Question for everyone:
1/ Do I remove myself from Negative influenced?
Remember: these group of people have been my friends for years.
I feel guilty to remove myself from them, dimiss them, socialised less with them. I feel that its for my own good,if i want to be mentally positive+healthy.
I dont want them to be in my life anymore. How do i do it??
At the same time, I m angry with myself because I think i had invested sooo MUCH TIME + ENERGY with these people and I gained NOTHING but Stress!
I dont feel like putting much effort with people anymore especially friends. I should put my effort at home with my brothers and sister because I ve poor relationships with them.
2/ Do i surround myself with positive people to be successful?
what if i cant find positive people in my surrounding, right now.
3/ How do i stay Positive and not be influenced by Any situation/ circumstances"??
Any thoughts? |
(1) The short answer is yes. I too have had "negative" friends in my life and it felt "wrong" to abandon them. However, if you want to have a positive life you really have no choice because even if you don't "abandon" them, your positivity will piss them off so much that they won't want to hang out with you anyways.
Secondly, I wouldn't bother trying to help them become more positive as you're working on yourself. Just focus on yourself first. Let them learn from your example, if anything, not from you pointing out what they are doing wrong.
(2) Yes, find positive people that increase your energy. You can also think about places, not just people. For example, I used to live in the city close to a highway. Now I moved to a 5 acre estate where I'm surrounded by trees and beautiful nature and the energy here is so grounding. I can have a really bad day at work and come home and as soon as I pull into my driveway, I feel better instantly. As I'm walking up to my front door I can see my dog staring out the front window wagging his tail watching me come home. As I walk by the window he bolts for the door to greet me. It's a daily POSITIVE experience that puts a smile on my face.
So don't just think of people as positive influencers, although those are good. Think of places, environments, even pets.
ALSO, you might want to check out this article I wrote that talks about another way to connect with positive people:
Are Your Friends Preventing You From Being Rich? | Inspired Money Maker - How To Make Money Doing What You Love
(3) To stay positive you need to work on your reserves, practice, and I almost inevitably would have to say that you have to find a more direct connection to source (by whatever name you call it). Positive energy comes to us from Source Energy. You can get it from places, animals, people or whatever, but they get it from Source Energy so you are kind of "sucking their energy" if that is your only source. If, however, you develop your spiritual life and connect directly to source, when you get in contact with positive energies your energy will multiply theirs instead of draining it.
Hope that helps you to get started.
I know how you feel about "losing friends". However, don't think of it that way. You're just chosing a different type of energy in your life. Who knows, maybe your positivity will influence some of those friends to join you on the light side one day.