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Angelwings · 11-23-2007, 09:20 AM

Hi everyone.

I realised much of my prespective about reality, insecurities, fault thinking, negativity, stress, worry could be due to unconscious influnced by sarcastic, unmotivated, less action oriented friends of mine.

My friends are full of BS, they complain alot more than taking Actions. I realised much of my Doom and complaining attitude somehow I m behaving like them too.
I know i shouldnt let external reality influence me; but i cant but unsconciously slowly influenced- its like the pharse " You're are who u hang out with" Its not easy to stay positive when my friends are so negative all the time, I m trying to get out of negative state and install a new positive believes but my friends are constantly rubbing off their negative doom attitudes on me.

Here's my Question for everyone:

1/ Do I remove myself from Negative influenced?
Remember: these group of people have been my friends for years.
I feel guilty to remove myself from them, dimiss them, socialised less with them. I feel that its for my own good,if i want to be mentally positive+healthy.
I dont want them to be in my life anymore. How do i do it??
At the same time, I m angry with myself because I think i had invested sooo MUCH TIME + ENERGY with these people and I gained NOTHING but Stress!
I dont feel like putting much effort with people anymore especially friends. I should put my effort at home with my brothers and sister because I ve poor relationships with them.

2/ Do i surround myself with positive people to be successful?
what if i cant find positive people in my surrounding, right now.

3/ How do i stay Positive and not be influenced by Any situation/ circumstances"??

Any thoughts?

11-23-2007, 09:20 AM	#1 (permalink)
Angelwings Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 53	Do u Avoid Negative People?? Hi everyone. I realised much of my prespective about reality, insecurities, fault thinking, negativity, stress, worry could be due to unconscious influnced by sarcastic, unmotivated, less action oriented friends of mine. My friends are full of BS, they complain alot more than taking Actions. I realised much of my Doom and complaining attitude somehow I m behaving like them too. I know i shouldnt let external reality influence me; but i cant but unsconciously slowly influenced- its like the pharse " You're are who u hang out with" Its not easy to stay positive when my friends are so negative all the time, I m trying to get out of negative state and install a new positive believes but my friends are constantly rubbing off their negative doom attitudes on me. Here's my Question for everyone: 1/ Do I remove myself from Negative influenced? Remember: these group of people have been my friends for years. I feel guilty to remove myself from them, dimiss them, socialised less with them. I feel that its for my own good,if i want to be mentally positive+healthy. I dont want them to be in my life anymore. How do i do it?? At the same time, I m angry with myself because I think i had invested sooo MUCH TIME + ENERGY with these people and I gained NOTHING but Stress! I dont feel like putting much effort with people anymore especially friends. I should put my effort at home with my brothers and sister because I ve poor relationships with them. 2/ Do i surround myself with positive people to be successful? what if i cant find positive people in my surrounding, right now. 3/ How do i stay Positive and not be influenced by Any situation/ circumstances"?? Any thoughts?