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Angela, your gene survival theory is interesting, and i am open to its probability.

Rose of Cairo. You said “So, why do we cry?”, in relation to when someone dies.
That is a general assumption. I have experienced it once, but I do not experience it. I had a friend die in his early twenties in a car accident. His cultural background (parents) was same as mine. There were a lot of our parents generation at his funeral, and there was a fair bit of sadness and some grieving expressed. The culture of our parents generation is specifically one of mourning during death. Wearing black for so many days, and not attending to any celebrations. I never took this on board, and still do not, but while I saw everyone in this sadness business, I ended up trying the grieving part when the coffin was being lowered. I experienced if fully. My memory of the grieving, was one of focusing that he was a good kid, was good company, wont be around any more, and missing or wanting these things to be but at the same time knowing that it is not going to be.
That was the only time I have done it. I experienced it, and once was enough. It is not my thing. I have had and auntie and uncle die at relatively early ages from illness, but did not go into it then either.

Death is viewed and experienced differently in some cultures. Is it in the Irish culture where there is celebration after someone dies, where the good memories of when they were alive, are celebrated. Surely there is someone here that can expand on this, plus confirm or correct me.

I gave the example of what i experienced in my grieving process, but i am curious if across the board in the being sad when someone dies, weather there is truth to it being related to resisting or non acceptance of reality as it is. Wanting something to be as it is not, or which can’t be. Not accepting reality as it is. For example; If say there is a desire to; still be with the person; or express or do something they did not do when they were alive, or simply unresolved matters they would like to have come to some completion with them. These things that can not be done, but the fact is they are no longer.