Nonono Mark, don't get me wrong! I don't think there is anything wrong with feeling sad when you miss someone who's not there anymore. That's perfectly ok. I'm sorry I used the word "selfish" which seems to be negative. What I meant was "it is self-ish, it's all about us, not about them, isn't it?"
My point was: we have no reason to feel sad for them, and in fact we feel sad for ourselves, right? It's ok to be sad for ourselves of course. Just wanted to clarify that point, because some people are outraged and try to make you feel guilty when you don't mourn someone who died. As if it were about that person. But it's not about them, it's about us. |