[DQueens]

Hi,

my friend who lives in another country, just had his wife tell him she no longer loves him and that she is leaving him. I know her personally and know that it's hard for her too, that she means it and is trying very hard to stand her ground after probably a lot of personal growth, and after trying very hard to make her marriage work...

However, my loyalties are to my friend, who deliberately ignored the warning signs prior to this, who told himself that things are going to be ok....

It is hard for him, right now... he talks about killing himself, that she was his only reason for living and he doesnt want to be around anymore...

I am worried he might try it... or that he might have sex with one of the people at his work... and therefore sabotage his own career...

So I guess my question is what can I do for my friend, when I am thousands of miles away and have only msn right now (he wont let me call him). What can I do about a potentially suicidal friend? What are some things I can say/do? Has anyone else been in this situation?

I am wondering if the way to combat his suicide is to lay a guilt trip "you would destroy my life, your family's life, your others friends if you were to do something like that to yourself" when I was suicidal, that was the only thoughts that would pull me out of it, but then you could argue that I wasnt truly serious about those thoughts...

thanks in advance.