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RT Wolf · 11-17-2007, 01:14 PM

This post might have some clues:

Mr Wang Says So: Search results for meditation everything goes bad

Also, and this may be a shot in the dark, it didn't sound like you were taking a lot of personal responsibility for what you were talking. Your words sound like you are keeping yourself at a distance, saying you are IN a situation (rather than you created it). That said, I think you are indeed starting to take responsibility, and I, for one, am happy for your recent consciousness-raising experience. I know you're unsure of how things will be, things seem to be getting worse, and you dunno if this is the right course of action, and you probably have a few doubts about all that, so, let me relate a story to you about growing pains.

In my last year of high school, two of my friends that I'd known since the beginning of high school (so about 3-4 years) just ripped into me and told me all the stuff they disliked about me (including, and get this, that I'm TOO happy all the time--apparently it made me seem gay). During that time, I was also hanging out with a new group of friends who were a lot more supportive and nicer than those guys. Know what I did? I promptly stopped hanging out with them and started hanging out with my new friends, who I still know to this day and who've helped me through tough times.

The moral of the story is three-fold. One, take responsibility for what you create (and I don't mean in an LoA "you create everything" sense), but simply recognize that your current situation is the result of your past choices, and I think you are starting to take responsibility for the boring situation you've created and empowering yourself by effectively saying, "This isn't good enough for me, I want something better." You're doing it. That also means, that your future will be a result of YOUR conscious choices. That's scary and highly empowering. Second, this is just growing pains. You are exploring a new area of life, and it isn't always in a straight line. Take the long view, in anohter year of so, you'll probably look back on tihs time period as one of catharsis and letting go of an old way of life so something better could come in. Third, sometimes when you want to climb a mountain, you have ot get down from the one you're on right now, go to the bottom and start climbing again. I had to drop my old friends before I could really hang out with my new ones, which was a great decision for me.

I hope this helps and I hope I'm not completely off the mark here.

11-17-2007, 01:14 PM	#3 (permalink)
RT Wolf Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Toronto, Canuckland Posts: 1,737	This post might have some clues: Mr Wang Says So: Search results for meditation everything goes bad Also, and this may be a shot in the dark, it didn't sound like you were taking a lot of personal responsibility for what you were talking. Your words sound like you are keeping yourself at a distance, saying you are IN a situation (rather than you created it). That said, I think you are indeed starting to take responsibility, and I, for one, am happy for your recent consciousness-raising experience. I know you're unsure of how things will be, things seem to be getting worse, and you dunno if this is the right course of action, and you probably have a few doubts about all that, so, let me relate a story to you about growing pains. In my last year of high school, two of my friends that I'd known since the beginning of high school (so about 3-4 years) just ripped into me and told me all the stuff they disliked about me (including, and get this, that I'm TOO happy all the time--apparently it made me seem gay). During that time, I was also hanging out with a new group of friends who were a lot more supportive and nicer than those guys. Know what I did? I promptly stopped hanging out with them and started hanging out with my new friends, who I still know to this day and who've helped me through tough times. The moral of the story is three-fold. One, take responsibility for what you create (and I don't mean in an LoA "you create everything" sense), but simply recognize that your current situation is the result of your past choices, and I think you are starting to take responsibility for the boring situation you've created and empowering yourself by effectively saying, "This isn't good enough for me, I want something better." You're doing it. That also means, that your future will be a result of YOUR conscious choices. That's scary and highly empowering. Second, this is just growing pains. You are exploring a new area of life, and it isn't always in a straight line. Take the long view, in anohter year of so, you'll probably look back on tihs time period as one of catharsis and letting go of an old way of life so something better could come in. Third, sometimes when you want to climb a mountain, you have ot get down from the one you're on right now, go to the bottom and start climbing again. I had to drop my old friends before I could really hang out with my new ones, which was a great decision for me. I hope this helps and I hope I'm not completely off the mark here.