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Old 11-16-2007, 09:19 AM
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Probably the best way to go about decisions is to just keep the goal in mind, finding out what your heart desires, and just keep that in mind like a beacon of light.

Sometimes you can't fgure out the connection a present decision might possibly have on your path, or how to get there where you want to go at all, so keeping in tune with your true desire works like a spiritual GPS system. Even when your mind is in the total dark it gets you where you want to be.

As far as being together with a guy you don't feel drawn to just cause you seem to have no choice, don't do it. From my own experience I can tell you there's nothing awaiting you down that path that you want to experience, you can only loose and feel much worse.

And you do have a choice, it's just fear and lack of self-esteem that tell you otherwise. I remember there's a podcast by Steve that covers these situations where you feel left with no alternative but those that look undesirable, you might want to check it out.

Be kind to yourself. We tend to be cruel and behave towards ourself in a way we wouldn't want any other living being to be treated if we thought it through. You have a right to happiness, to enjoy a fulfilled relationship with a guy you truly love, and you can have that.
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