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Originally Posted by hotwired  I am a big believer in the law of attraction as well as aware of how we "pray all day" or "intend all day" with every thought, word and deed. that being said, here's what I'm experiencing.
1. My wife and I have one child and a nice little house with nice little back yard and it's all paid off!! Our child is young though and we have decided that we want to move away from the busy, busy road we're on. We can't really walk or ride bikes easily where we live because of hte degree of fast traffic (55 mph 30 feet from our door)
2. we've found a house nearly double the price of ours - we can afford it but I'm having conflicting thoughts and feelings. It has nice neigborhood, in fact everything we have been looking for, including neigbors who have children that go to same school and grade as our little one. Our plan is to sell in 12-14 years and travel (and downsize to small home here). This time frame means that our money outlay SHOULD be returned to us when we sell, unless something unprecidented happens OR we pay WAY too much.
3. The conflicts I'm feeling are sort of like underlying beliefs. I'll do something different here and just "list them out" as they "whisper annoyngly" in my ear!!
a. you're falling victim to the "keep up with the Jones'"
b. who do you think you are? you don't need everything to be perfect! so what if there's a lot of traffic. you've got a nice back yard and your house if paid for, stop trying to have everything perfect
c. look at all the other houses on this street? are they all "wrong"? why can't you behappy here.
That's about it. I want the house, my wife wants the house and I know our little one will LOVE it. Maybe it's just normal ol' "buyers remorse" before the buy. Anyone experience similar type of resistance? I suppose my main confusion is "what's just fear, and what's our own intuition guiding us?"
Thanks and Bless all! |
Maybe this will help you out. In February of this year I was living in a house that I didn't like close to a highway. It was noisy and I didn't like living there anymore. I wanted something with a lot more space. The lot was about 6,000 sq. feet.
The opportunity came up to purchase a 5.5acre lot with a house slightly bigger than our old one, but it meant my mortgage payments would go up from $750/m (I had a big portion paid off) to about $4,000/m, which meant I would have to "work extra" to pay for that. (Meaning I would have to find ways to manifest more money).
I decided to make the move, even though it would have been easier to stay where we were, finish paying off the house and have way more freedom from payments.
Now, every day that I come home from work I get out of my car, take a breath of fresh air, look at the trees on my property and I INSTANTLY feel this awesome energy like I'm home. I say to myself "I love this place." and I feel a sense of such tremendous gratitude. It's so awesome. I wouldn't want to live anywhere else.
Here's my advice to your three beliefs:
(a) You're not keeping up with the Joneses. You're going after what you truly want. Who gives a crap what the Joneses are doing. Go after what you want. If it happens to be the same thing as you want, so be it.
(b) It's not about perfect. It's about growth. Don't try to stunt your growth. Believe me, I love my house but it's not perfect. There is a whole new level of fun for me now. Since moving here I've had to learn how to cut down trees, bush, drive a tractor, build fences, and next summer I'll have to learn how to convert my pond into something that doesn't look like a swamp, and maybe even put a fountain in it. I would be willing to bet that there will be plenty of "unperfect" stuff about your property as well. It's not about perfection, it's about preferences. You're moving from the preference of having a paid of house you don't enjoy anymore to a house you have to go into more debt for that you'll enjoy more.
(c) The other people in the houses on your block may or may not be happy there. THat is really none of your concern. It's not about them, this is about you and YOUR preferences. Maybe they live where they live because they have chosen to travel 6months out of the year, or maybe they prefer living where they are because they like the short commute to work. Whatever their preference is for staying there, it has nothing to do with you. Don't think of it as being Happy or not being Happy. THink of it as just having a preference. Kind of like Chocolate and Vanilla ice cream. If you follow your logic of being happy because other people are happy on the same street where is it going to stop? Are you going to choose vanilla ice-cream even if you prefer chocolate just because everyone on your street prefers vanilla? Who is it exactly that told you that you're not a worthy human being that deserves to have preferences?
Here's my advice. Go for it. Go for what you truly want in life. Be happy. Have preferences. Do you really think that you'll be lying on your death bed one day and God is going to come down and punish you for eating chocolate ice-cream instead of vanilla?
