Well, everyone wants love, but to believe that you "need" love from a particular person gives you a stance that robs that person of her freedom. That's not love, that's holding someone hostage.
When we refer to a "needy" person, we're not talking about the general desire people have to feel loved; we're talking about the attachment wherein a person believes he's incapable of being satisfied or fulfilled if he doesn't receive the "love" of one particular person. And unfortunately, when you hold that sort of attachment, there is no amount of love that can satisfy you, because you're a bottomless pit. That doesn't make you a monster, but it does make you someone who sucks away freedom.
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