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Originally Posted by richie  You'll have to play with his emotions, and make sure you never loose yours.
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would you like a guy who become all dependent on you and has no self respect of his own?
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P.S. to all other posters:
I know I got her on the not so good path of going back to her old boy friend. but she's in immense pain. I know this is not the best solution but its almost second to best. |
richie, I'm sure you meant it well too, but do you really think it's a good idea to teach her how to play games?? First, playing games is stupid per se. What hope is there in a relationship based on manipulation? Second, it's disrespectful, since he said clearly that he doesn't want the relationship anymore. Third, a relationship with a guy who's dependent on her and has no self-esteem on his own is a source of massive problems. You know that won't work out. They will separate again. Fourth, you know exactly that in this unhealthy relationship she would not work on herself like she would do it if she were single! Do you really think you're helping her? Yes, she's in immense pain. That's a chance for her! She can move on now, work on herself and build a happy life, so that she can be
really happy, later, in a
healthy relationship. She won't have this chance if she gets him back with dishonest tricks.
joyjoy, I'm glad you're back, I was wondering how you were doing. Do what you think is right. If you want my advice, I would say: break up
every contact with him. Seriously. He doesn't want you anymore, but still needs you as a friend. Do you really want a man who doesn't really want you, but needs you? You don't need him! His emails are not good for you. Obviously you don't want to be his "best friend". Tell him that. Tell him not to write you again, ever. Tell your european and chinese friends not to give him any informations about you. If he writes, delete his emails or sms without reading them and don't answer.
Why don't you join other discussions on this forum too? There's a whole bunch of nice people here you can talk to about just everything. You're not alone. You'll see that life is beautiful and that you're a very strong young woman
