[Soul Vibe]

I understand what people mean when they say "needy guy", but I have to say, I hate that description. Everyone has the need to feel loved, or we wouldn't be having this conversation in the first place, would we? Fool yourselves all you like with all the love yourself first crap, but it's hard to do when you feel isolated, detatched and withdrawn. To attach such a negative connotation to being in need of love from another (or being "needy") is just cold and heartless to me, and pushes the "needy" further away. Where is the love, people?! Everyone deserves to be loved by another. I personally believe it is all these walls, and defenses we put up to keep the "needy" at bay which turn people into a lot worse than needy. You know, the guy you mumble to yourself; "he didn't get enough hugs as a child." Same principle! Just turn on Dateline and count all the perverts who have become so discouraged to date women their own age, they have turned to preying on the innocence of youth. It is disgusting! What's sad is, I have known someone personally, who ended up on that show. An instructor at my college. Okay, maybe it's not fair to blame natural sexual frustration for these behaviors, but something caused these behaviours. Unless you believe these men are just genetically born pedophiles. I'm not saying women should go out and find "needy" guys to save, but maybe the "needy" should be treated like human beings, so they don't become monsters.