I have no idea if this is an appropriate post to make (mods, please feel free to delete it, if it isn't) but, given that I'm something of a late bloomer, I was hoping one of you lovely people might be able to help me with a little bit of advice.
Namely, how do you deal with finding out about / seeing an ex-partner with someone new?
I've just entered a situation where I have to deal with it for the first time, and am not sure what to do.
Some background will probably help.
The guy in question was my first ever boyfriend. It wasn't a particularly happy relationship, but it lasted 18 months and I convinced myself I was in love with him (I blame reading too much romantic fiction as a teenager
). I eventually broke up with him because I wasn't happy and it was almost impossible to get him to spend any time with me.
It's now another 18 months on. I've been with my lovely new partner for almost a year and am much happier than I was before. (Although he is now moving to a different country for work - any advice on dealing with that also greatly appreciated!). For most of that time I didn't see my ex at all, but we have recently become friends again.
I've now found out that my ex is seeing someone new and, as much as I would never want to get back together with him, it hurts, and I don't know why or quite how to deal with it. I know the girl he's seeing through friends and she seems like a very nice person. I don't want my (somewhat irrational,) probably egotistical, angst to affect my friendship with my ex and make either of them feel bad.
Any advice greatly appreciated!
