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Originally Posted by lifequest  As for considering asking guys out, I find that's a tricky one: I've had bad experiences in the past. And by bad past experiences, I don't mean getting rejected. I mean not being able to get rid of the guy and make him understand that "I'm not that into him"! It happened to me twice, so I feel really uncomfortable nowadays as for the subject of approaching guys. I know, I shouldn't but generalizing that all men are unbalanced, needy and clingy, I know there are so great men out there, but those two times, it took me approximately a year to get rid of each guy (yes, you read correctly, close to a year), and one of those times, I even had a bf all along!!!. |
These guys wouldn't go away for a year even after you told them straight that you weren't interested in them? I've never heard of anyone that needy! What finally got them to quit?
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Originally Posted by JimOfferman Second that! If you are completely comfortable with your skin and your clothes, then what you wear won't really matter. |
Thirded. All the advice on femininising yourself is good and will help to attract guys, but I can assure you that you could attract a suitable guy without going to much effort (the last girl I dated was as equally attractive in a t-shirt and cargo pants as she was in a stylish red dress and matching shoes). Likewise asking a guy out could work quite well. There was another thread on that topic (which I can't find), and one of the ladies (Angela I think) said that letting the guy ask the woman out is most often the best way to go, but some pairs of personalities can match well even if the woman does the asking. And from what you've said I suspect you could be one who'd succeed in building a good relationship even if you ask the guy out (as long as he's not one of those poor needy guys!)
Honestly Lifequest, if you talk to a guy, find yourself attracted to him, and give him a chance to learn a little of what makes you worthwhile, I highly doubt he wouldn't ask you out. And if he doesn't, take a chance (surely they're not all needy)!
Also, I agree with Rose. I love it when girls are genuinely interested in stuff that typically only interests guys. But frankly who doesn't like it when someone shows an interest in stuff they're also interested in?