I agree. Different people indeed have different ideas of what "love" or "falling in love" is. Indeed, love can even be categorized into "passionate" and "compassionate" love. When asked to determine what the classic guy and girl call "being in love", I would say it is passionate love. Where its the kind of love you normally see being depicted in movies and song - the lovers can't stop thinking about each other, either see each other as flawless or find it so easy to accept and understand the flaws, they want to spend the rest of their lives together, have kids, start a family - and all because being with that person makes them feel good and they are addicted to that person. It originates from the physical attraction and it exists because, as you said - it fulfills a basic need: the guy's need to satisfy his urges and how the girl on his arm portrays his status among the other guys, and the girls need to fill a void of love and security.
But overall it's an addiction and usually a phase.
However as you put correctly, many people have different ideas of love and classic guys and girls tend to copy their ideas, beliefs and values from what is held by majority of their gender.
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