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Originally Posted by striving4peace  lol, i sound corny when i say "how do people know they're in love? they just know it." :P
but i mean when the relationship has progressed to a point... where its not just about a physical attraction. |
If you're on your first date, and after an hour, there is still nothing more than physical attraction, then either just have sex or say it won't work and break it off, because it won't.
You shouldn't go out on a date with someone you don't find attractive in ways other than the physical, unless you're either wildly optimistic, desperate, or utterly inexperienced.
From the classic guy's perspective, you should have sized her up for more than the status you gain from having her on your arm or the enjoyment you anticipate in bed. In the former case, yay high school. In the latter, be honest: it's just about sex. Do it and don't pretend. Don't ask someone out on a date if you don't already want a relationship.
From the classic girl's perspective, you should know a lot from how you got asked on the date, how he looks and is dressed and carries himself, where you're going, what you're doing, and, by the time the date is underway, you have more than enough information to determine his attractiveness on non-physical qualities.
So if this ephemeral "not just about a physical attraction" is your idea of love, then love most certainly happens very quickly. It's not like every girl carries a beeper around that rings when a guy wants a date. There should be more than enough interaction by the time the first date begins to gather the appropriate interest.
This is why I had to ask.
People have widely varying ideas of what "love" is. When I asked you how you make the determination, I didn't mean you, in the relationship. I meant you, as a third party. I can't agree or disagree with you about the chronology until I have a grasp of what you mean.