Hi Terumoto,
I sympathize with you. You are no longer in love with your girlfriend, (though you still care about her deeply, so you are both better off now that you have ended the relationship. I wish you luck with the second girl. However, comparing your love of girl 1 to that of a mother for a child - you are way off on that one, speaking as a mother.
I also think that the communication that you find with the second girl is based on an emotional connection that you have made. That connection is wonderful, but not a guarantee of happiness in a relationship. When we were getting along I could communicate on a deep level with my ex-husband, but that didn't mean he wasn't a totally impossible person to live with. It took me a few years in marriage counseling to realize that he could not really see me as a separate person.
Again, good luck,
Joan
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