Hey lifequest, I totally sympathize with you. I’m great at being friends with a guy. If it’s a guy I’m halfway interested in, I’d rather not know him than be friends with him! Once a friendship begins, there is no hope that we’ll ever be together.
As far as meeting guys, why not join an outdoors club? Even if you don’t end up meeting anyone, you’ll have fun things to do every weekend.
I have to disagree with cdn2wheeler about asking guys out. Don’t ruin the natural order of things! When a woman asks a man out, she never really knows if he is just being polite or if he is really interested in her. You don’t want a sympathy date! Real men ask women out. I admit I’ve never tried online dating. If you decide to go this route, you be the one to place the ad (with a picture, of course) and let men respond to you. Then you can select a date based on the responses.
As far as tweaking, maybe try utilizing more casual touch when interacting with available male friends. I predict that your future boyfriend will be one of two extremes: either very nurturing or really hyper-masculine.
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