Hmmm... I'm like you lifequest, I hate shopping, I don't use make up, don't wear jewelry, I love moving around in the woods or climbing on mountains and most of my friends are men. But I have no problem with finding mates to date or more. I guess it's a question of inner attitude. You can wear a nerdy t-shirt and sneakers and be sexy and feminine nonetheless. You don't have to ♥♥♥♥♥ around hysterically, own twenty pairs of shoes and go shopping every day to be a real woman. There are many women like us and many men who like women like us! I guess the question is more how feminine you feel inside. How much you let stereotypes make you feel unwomanly, or not.
I'm not good at giving advice on how to meet people to date, unfortunately. For me it just happens automatically, when I do things I'm interested in I meet other people interested in the same thing. Or even on the street. In a shop. Wherever. It's a matter of attitude I think. When you feel you're the sexiest woman on Earth, they'll look at you and talk to you, no matter where you are, no matter what you're wearing.
What you wrote touched me a lot, for I'm having exactly the same problem... I used to be very frustrated in the past because of that. But this forum helped me to shift a bit my inner attitude about all that and I feel much better now. You don't have to bend yourself to be what you're not. It's enough to think differently about it.
Lots of Love!
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Originally Posted by uberinquisitive just be yourself! Don't change your looks - you want a guy who likes you the way you are. |
I absolutely agree! It doesn't make sense to dress up to please some guy.