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I'm single. Busy tonight..?
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Well, actually, I already have plans for tonight, but tomorrow night is clear
Ah, yes, the "friend zone". Thanks for defining where I am, it's silly, but I had never realized I was in it...
I don't mind doing some tweaks as you say, but that's the thing: what to tweak and what not to tweak? I've tried asking for advice to friends and family, but from what I understand, they don't know more than I do what to "tweak". That's why I was more looking for a "coach", an outside professional help if I may say.
As for considering asking guys out, I find that's a tricky one: I've had bad experiences in the past. And by bad past experiences, I don't mean getting rejected. I mean not being able to get rid of the guy and make him understand that "I'm not that into him"! It happened to me twice, so I feel really uncomfortable nowadays as for the subject of approaching guys. I know, I shouldn't but generalizing that all men are unbalanced, needy and clingy, I know there are so great men out there, but those two times, it took me approximately a year to get rid of each guy (yes, you read correctly, close to a year), and one of those times, I even had a bf all along!!!.
Thanks for the "looking in the eyes" advice. I've been praticing it with friends for a while, plus trying to complement them on something they are wearing or doing. I know I'm gonna have to start doing it with strangers eventually, but all in due time I believe.