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Originally Posted by Moonbeam  Hi, I get what you said about the list, and do have one myself. But the thing is, sometimes when I meet someone who may fit the list, but i don't "feel attracted" or interested in pursuing it. I've tried to push myself a bit to get to know the guy a little more but without the natural inclination it just doesn't work. Physical appearance is important to me. Not that they need to be conventionally good looking or perfect, but must appear attractive to me... I think it comes from certain inner qualities, but I'm not able to nail it down into one trait..
Is there a way around it? or does my appraoch to the list itself need to be changed. |
perhaps you need to add some information about physical traits to your list
I have a very long, extensive list in which I covered everything I could think of that was important to me. I went through it later and starred all the things that were non-negotiable. The man that showed up is all the starred items and I find more and more of the non-starred items the more I get to know him.