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Originally Posted by Terumoto  I might also add that I'm pretty inexperienced at life, I'm young, and my current girlfriend is my first ever girlfriend. |
Well, then, I'm happy to lend you the benefit of my graduate degree in life experience and an older woman's perspective.
Jim's right sweetie, you're about to get a lot more experience. But he also said you have a tough choice ahead of you - stay or go - and with that I disagree. You've already made your choice. You're just not taking the action required to back up your decision.
Life lesson #1 - Girl B is irrelevant to this discussion. Your first order of business is to cut things off with your *girlfriend* and get out of her life ASAP so she can get on, grow up, heal, and find someone who loves her. Period. Clean up that mess before anything else.
2nd life lesson - this will serve you well in your old age - emotional affairs are still, in fact, affairs and particularly damaging to a woman's sense of safety and well-being in a relationship. You left your girlfriend the moment you took up emotionally with the other woman. Maintaining a superficial, physical presence prevents your *girlfriend* from moving on.
Your *girlfriend* deserves to be loved and appreciated by someone who puts her in first place. Someone who is really present for her. Someone who does not arbitrarily, arrogantly, and condescendingly decide that he knows what's best for her. Someone who does not describe her as such:
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Originally Posted by Terumoto she doesn't understand me
she doesn't really get what I'm trying to say
She is a good girlfriend
honest, loving, caring and helpful
She does a lot for me
hostile, even obnoxious
short temper
drama queen
I just have to deal with it
I don't feel a "connection" with her,
it feels shallow. |
Yes, there will be tears and you will likely feel bad for *hurting* her. She'll live. Thrive even.