Bitsy: Thanks, that's the kind of thing I was trying to get at. It's good somebody else has experience with it, now I know I'm not delusional.
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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo  Oh really, so when you'll find her faults, you'll stop loving her? You know what, that's not love! You love the idea you have of Girl2, not the girl herself. You're being pretty unfair to consider her as perfect. Because she's not perfect, nobody is. So she can only fail in your eyes, sooner or later. The day you'll find out that she's not perfect, you'll find Girl3, who will be seemingly perfect, and lose interest in Girl2 just like you lost interest in imperfect Girl1.
Boy, loving someone means loving them all inclusive, with their faults, their weaknesses, with the communication problems and everything. Not even despite of all that, but WITH all that.
IMO Girl1 and Girl2 both deserve someone who really loves them, which obviously is not the case with you. So my advice is: leave both of them and try to stop judging them. |
I'm not that shallow. It's self destructive for me, I miss her so much all the time. I think you're underestimating my feelings for her, it's not just attraction to her looks or personality. She has faults, everyone does, but I love them and to me they're part of her perfection. This is a girl who I grew up with and deeply care about. I'm just looking for something, anything, that can make the fact that we can't be together more bearable. If we become closer it will be hard on me as well as her, but we can't help it.
And my girlfriend... Of course I love her, it hurts me to see her suffering because I am so incompetent at conveying my love for her that she feels insufficient. I just broke up with her, I don't know if we'll stay apart, but I feel terrible, I'm even shaking. I've never caused so much emotional pain to someone in my life, I had to bear listening to her cry harder than I've ever heard her cry because of some crazy but seemingly logical decision I had made in my head. It's hard to keep my thoughts level when something like that is going on, I just wanted to say "no, no, I'm not leaving you," and comfort her, but in the long run this was the best thing for me to do. She is a wonderful person who I love very much, and I wasn't making her happy, what else was I supposed to do? Leaving her doesn't change the fact that I love her. She is perfect, just not the right partner for me.