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Originally Posted by Terumoto  It's just that it's not me I'm worried about, I'm alright. My girlfriend is the one that's having a hard time, but she wants to stay with me. It's no problem for me to stay, it would probably be more difficult to leave her. |
How can you be alright when your gf is having a hard time? Your staying with her is not an act of kindness, it is cruel! You are depriving her of a chance to have a relationship with someone who is fully committed to her and not looking elsewhere. Your head is still with her, but your heart is already out the door.
Either stay and be committed to her and her alone or go and leave her in peace.
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With the communication thing, that was just an example. It's not like I'm saying obscure things. No words can adequately convey feelings and thoughts, and unless the person being talked to is on the "same page" mentally as the talker, understanding can't take place.
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Not when you don't take responsibility for it. I know it is much, much easier talking to someone who is on the same page as you. But when she is not, it really is up to you to flip back a few pages and allow her to catch up.
Of course it is easier to talk to people who are already on the same page, but don't limit yourself by interacting only with those people. Even if they are on the same page now, they might not be in the future.
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I might also add that I'm pretty inexperienced at life, I'm young, and my current girlfriend is my first ever girlfriend. Apart from one childhood boy-girl relationship, which I don't think counts. My feelings for girl 2 are not infatuation, they've been constant for almost all of the time I've known her.
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You are about to become more experienced then. First you have to make a tough choice: stay or go. I nor anyone else on this forum can make that choice for you. You're on your own, kiddo! Listen to your heart and head. Know also that either choice is absolutely right. The only thing you can do wrong is not make a choice at all - which amounts to avoiding responsibility for your life and your actions. But you are not the kind of guy who does that, from the sound of it.
Good luck!