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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  The grass is always greener on the other side. You don't really know what you had until after you lost it... etc.
All I can say to you is decide what is best for you and do that. If you are really unhappy in your current situation, you are not doing anyone any favors by staying. But be warned that the idyllic picture you have painted in your head about how things will be when you hook up if girl2 (assuming she really wants to do that) is probably a little greener than reality will be.
On the difference in communication between girl1 and girl2, I just want to say this: you are solely responsible for making other people understand your words and actions, not the other way around. If someone doesn't understand you, it's up to you to change your way of communicating with him or her. You simply cannot expect someone to know how they should change their understanding of your words to get at your exact message. That would only work if the other person could also read your mind. Most people I know can't do that.
(The people who seemingly can read my mind are those who have a total understanding of my default mode of communication) |
It's just that it's not me I'm worried about, I'm alright. My girlfriend is the one that's having a hard time, but she wants to stay with me. It's no problem for me to stay, it would probably be more difficult to leave her.
I've really been trying to stop feeling this way about girl 2, for the reasons you mentioned. The only way I can find faults in her is to get to know her better, that was my original logic, but it seems like the more I get to know her the more I end up loving her. Maybe I'll soon find something.
With the communication thing, that was just an example. It's not like I'm saying obscure things. No words can adequately convey feelings and thoughts, and unless the person being talked to is on the "same page" mentally as the talker, understanding can't take place. I'm not saying I'm smarter or less intelligent than my girlfriend, but we aren't on the "same page" with things like feelings and thoughts, hers are very different from mine, I think it is just our nature. Girl 2 seems to be naturally intuitive towards my feelings, which makes things a lot easier.
I might also add that I'm pretty inexperienced at life, I'm young, and my current girlfriend is my first ever girlfriend. Apart from one childhood boy-girl relationship, which I don't think counts. My feelings for girl 2 are not infatuation, they've been constant for almost all of the time I've known her.