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JimOfferman · 11-09-2007, 09:07 AM

The grass is always greener on the other side. You don't really know what you had until after you lost it... etc.

All I can say to you is decide what is best for you and do that. If you are really unhappy in your current situation, you are not doing anyone any favors by staying. But be warned that the idyllic picture you have painted in your head about how things will be when you hook up if girl2 (assuming she really wants to do that) is probably a little greener than reality will be.

On the difference in communication between girl1 and girl2, I just want to say this: you are solely responsible for making other people understand your words and actions, not the other way around. If someone doesn't understand you, it's up to you to change your way of communicating with him or her. You simply cannot expect someone to know how they should change their understanding of your words to get at your exact message. That would only work if the other person could also read your mind. Most people I know can't do that.

(The people who seemingly can read my mind are those who have a total understanding of my default mode of communication)

11-09-2007, 09:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
JimOfferman Family Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 1,823	The grass is always greener on the other side. You don't really know what you had until after you lost it... etc. All I can say to you is decide what is best for you and do that. If you are really unhappy in your current situation, you are not doing anyone any favors by staying. But be warned that the idyllic picture you have painted in your head about how things will be when you hook up if girl2 (assuming she really wants to do that) is probably a little greener than reality will be. On the difference in communication between girl1 and girl2, I just want to say this: you are solely responsible for making other people understand your words and actions, not the other way around. If someone doesn't understand you, it's up to you to change your way of communicating with him or her. You simply cannot expect someone to know how they should change their understanding of your words to get at your exact message. That would only work if the other person could also read your mind. Most people I know can't do that. (The people who seemingly can read my mind are those who have a total understanding of my default mode of communication) Last edited by JimOfferman; 11-09-2007 at 09:09 AM.