Hmm, Louise, that's interesting. I think you're right. I spend a lot of time alone, but I don't always feel lonely. I think probably when I feel lonely it's because I'm feeling inadequate. I feel like a loser with no friends and why would anyone want to spend time with me or find me interesting. So when I try to take action, like phoning someone, I feel fear and anxiety because I'm still feeling inadequate. I'm afraid they will reject me because I'm not good enough. So I need to address that underlying problem, otherwise I could be spending all my time with other people and still be having those negative feelings of inadequacy.
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