Hi, Akashic Librarian. Hmm, coping with folks that bring you down? Well, for me, I found that there were several people in school that would bring me down. What I found was that those people were never in the least bothered by the fact that they were obviously irritating me. I was the only one suffering. And I just suffered more by spending all my time thinking about how irritating these people were and how they couldn't care less. In short, I was putting my attention on the wrong things. I bet if I had known then how to switch my attention to something positive quickly, it would have helped me out a lot. Maybe if you could switch your attention to something positive quickly, when you encounter these other people, they might bother you less.
Oh, and if you're in a class discussion and they are saying something that seems to you offensive, instead of getting all angry about it, search for the grain of truth in what they are saying, repeat that, and slowly work your way from that point to what you want to say.
I hope you have great times.
Cheers!
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