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Originally Posted by wolfgang  I feel I have left her but not changed the amount of time we spend together. |
Wolfgang, my guess is that your girlfriend is relating to you right now as a ghost -- you're not present for her, but you're not gone either. This can make a person feel really unstable and panicky and freaked out.
How honest have you been with her about what's going on for her in the relationship? It sounds like you've been keeping her out of the loop on what you're thinking and feeling.
I think that whether you stay or go, you'll be glad if you clean this up with her, have integrity, be straight with her and with yourself, and do the right thing for yourself. You like her enough to part with her with lots of love, don't you, if that's what it comes to? Wouldn't that be better than parting with her with acrimony and regret? You'll be making it easier for both of you to go freely forth and find good matches for yourselves, free of leftover pain. Just be straight.
Best wishes.