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Holistic Star · 11-06-2007, 05:55 PM

I know what you mean.

I used to give a lot of advice - then get frustrated when it wasn't followed! I give much less advice now than I used to ever since I discovered coaching. With my friends, I only offer advice if they say 'what do you think I should do?' - if they don't ask but have a problem, I ask questions trying to find out what it is they really want.

I found that offering advice was a very effective way of distracting myself from my own issues because I was getting tangled up in other people's rubbish. I've purposely taken a step back from other people's problems and I do my best to follow my own advice but admit is isn't always easy. I don't believe in using willpower to force things through, but it does take personal discipline to use EFT and LOA when I'm in a fugly mood. (fugly is a shorthand for 'effing ugly!) and find the positive in the situation etc.

perhaps we should do a 30 day trial and only offer advice that we have already followed ourselves!

11-06-2007, 05:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
Holistic Star Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1,611	I know what you mean. I used to give a lot of advice - then get frustrated when it wasn't followed! I give much less advice now than I used to ever since I discovered coaching. With my friends, I only offer advice if they say 'what do you think I should do?' - if they don't ask but have a problem, I ask questions trying to find out what it is they really want. I found that offering advice was a very effective way of distracting myself from my own issues because I was getting tangled up in other people's rubbish. I've purposely taken a step back from other people's problems and I do my best to follow my own advice but admit is isn't always easy. I don't believe in using willpower to force things through, but it does take personal discipline to use EFT and LOA when I'm in a fugly mood. (fugly is a shorthand for 'effing ugly!) and find the positive in the situation etc. perhaps we should do a 30 day trial and only offer advice that we have already followed ourselves!