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Originally Posted by cdn2wheeler  This is why, in my opinion, the whole idea of "friends first" just doesn't work in a romantic relationship. It's a completely different paradigm. |
Heh, this is an idea often repeated in PUA books. They say, that if a girl pronounces "let's be friends", then the guy did something wrong.
However the same books claim that the situation can be eventually turned around. So as NotesMaeve, I'm not sure that anything is set in stone here.
Personally, most of my early romantic relationships started as friendships. At least I thought about them as friendships. I was extremely inattentive and used to miss all cues that girls were attracted to me. Once there was a hilarious conversation:
Girl: I think I have a crush on you.
Me: Um, What does "crush" mean? (I'm a non native speaker, you know, and was not used to hearing something like that even in my mother tongue).
Girl: Err, it means that I'm attracted to you.
Me: Oh...
Nothing really came out of that one
