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Originally Posted by openeyes  Even if you're a woman wanting to have sex with male friends, though many may agree to have sex, there's a good chance they won't be able to go without developing any feelings for you, and the friendship likely won't be the same afterward. It just depends on what you value the most, sex with a particular person you happen to be friends with, or the friendship itself. |
Well said.
This is why, in my opinion, the whole idea of "friends first" just doesn't work in a romantic relationship. It's a completely different paradigm.
One of the women I've dated in the past married her "best friend" and it worked... for a short time. But she told me she never had any physical attraction to her husband. Sure, she liked him, even loved him, but to sleep with him just wasn't something that turned her crank. They eventually divorced, and she was initially attracted to me because I didn't play the "friends first" card: She knew exactly what was going on, she knew I was attracted and I made sure that there was no mistake about it.
Long story short: too much drama going on in her life with her ex and battles with him over the kids, money, etc. so we just parted. But if nothing else, it was a good lesson: the dreaded "friend zone" is very real and impossible to get out of (at least in my experience).