TeeZee,
There is nothing wrong with you.
Through experience and observation, I have learned that there are basically two roles people have in relationships: Organisers and Attendees. Organisers are those people who organize social gatherings (from "hey, wanna go see a movie" to organizing homecoming). Attendees just sit around and wait until they are invited to a party by one of the Organisers in their circle of friends. Of course I am massively over simplifying here, but the point is that if you are an Organiser (and from the sound of it you are), you're likely to have a lot of Attendee friends. One isn't better than the other - they just act and behave differently.
The price of being the Organiser in any particular relationship is that you are often the one who has to keep initiating new activities. Your Attendee friends don't know any better than to wait around and be invited by you.
Now, if you are the Organiser in all of your friendships, things can get a little laborious on your end. The solution, then, is to find some Organisers you can be an Attendee with! The trick there is NOT to organise an activity yourself but to attend someone else's party. Large group activities (club, dances, parties) are great for being an Attendee. They are also excellent places to be invited by some other Organiser to attend whatever he or she is organizing next.
Bottomline: don't be offended by your Attendee friends' lack of extending invitations to you. It is not that they don't like you, it is just that they are not accustomed to being the ones who have to organize get togethers (or at least not in relation to you). If you're tired of organizing, become an Attendee!
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