Ilya,
I apologize I didn't mean to offend.
I didn't mean to place girls in "Instant gratification" category necessarily, at least not in the way I think you're taking it. What I mean is in a sense, it seems people believe that once they get a boyfriend/girlfriend they will be instantly happy. But, I feel that you shouldn't be in a relationship until you really feel you can devote time into it long term. IMO, Working and studying through college just isn't a good time for it.
IMO, I really believe at least in the college years, that students place too much emphasis on having a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Almost just for the sake of having one. Without really knowing the time, effort and commitment it takes to maintain a healthy happy relationship. You can always turn off a game. You can't turn off a girlfriend or relationship. Unless you just break things off.
And if parents are paying for a their kids education or even if the kid is paying for it himself, are you telling me that kid should focus on getting a significant other over his studies? There are people fighting just to get into college. You don't get into a great college to get an advanced education and focus on getting a girlfriend over your career/studies.
Relationships take time, relationships can be full of drama and it's not always happy. Yeah, balancing this, that and the other thing sounds nice. But is it fair to start a relationship when you don't have enough time to devote to it? I really feel when you decide to enter into a relationship you better be able to put in the time, effort and commitment that person deserves and not half*ss it.
And that it's ok to not be with someone. There's nothing wrong with it. Especially if you're in a college university working on the beginnings of your career. That's my .02 cents. I didn't mean for my point to come out that way, I didn't mean to offend you and I apologize if I did. |