I agree with Rose of course. I know how tough it is to have contact with someone you are not "over" but thinking this is an opening to restart a romantic relationship would be to misunderstand his motives in my opinion.
I can see that he cares about your wellbeing. I believe he may even miss you, but that is not the same as wanting to renew a relationship.
He's told you what he wants very directly -- that is friendship. I can see how hard that idea hits you and how badly it makes you feel, so I would suggest you write him back and let him know that you appreciate his offer of friendship, but that since you are pained by not being in a relationship it is best for you if you cut out contact for now. Please trust me when I say that everything in this situation will be easier if you just stop communicating with him. For now, possibly forever, depending on the work you do in yourself and where that takes you.
Keep your chin up. Let him know that you care very much about him, but that it would be best if you don't have contact and then get to work on taking care of yourself, taking responsibility for your life and making it awesome.
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