It's not my website. I was trying to help as the most recent blog post genuinely helped me when I was down.
Anyway the gist of it is that you are currently stuck inside your head. Most of the time you are trapped in negative thought loops saying "Oh no, I'm shy and timid."
If you were social before, and after getting dumped, you have shown a more timid side, realize that it's all in your head. It's always in your head, but it's much easier to observe here. YOU keep recreating the past everyday and allow that thought activity to make you feel timid and stifled. The solution is to focus the majority of your attention on the present moment. When you do not, you reduce NOW to a stepping stone, which is like removing the life found within every moment. You reduce it to a concept, past or future. You only ever think about those things "now" anyway.
As for the boring thing, experiment around. If you're bored to tears with your life, then experiment around with things you want to do. Did you become more busy with work after the breakup? If not, then you still have time for the things you love.
Oh and, don't be so hard on yourself! This is one of the most important things. Just think of the emotions as telling you a message. Have you read Steve's "Dark Night of the Soul" post about "negative" emotions?
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