Hi Martin!
Here comes a cpl of thoughts that popped up for me when I was reading your thread.
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Originally Posted by MartinT  I didn’t go to clubs (nobody to go with – all former friends went to other cities), I didn’t party, I obviously didn’t try to date girls, so I dove into the area I knew best – studying. |
Go yourself. Really! I know its hard as hell but what's the loss? You will acutaly be more likely to meet morepeople going on your own (male and female) as well as, well - sitting home will not meeting people easier. Its a hard way to go and you will prob. feel kinda funny the first times but think of it as a challenge and - you will train yourself in social skills and independence. Fast.
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Originally Posted by MartinT Sometimes I even think about talking to random girls in public places, libraries or buses – but then either my shy part gets the upper hand or the logical part of my brain shut the initiative down by telling me something like “Come on! What are going to do? If she is intelligent enough, she will make fun of you, and if she is not… what are you going to do next? Would you really want her to be your wife?” |
ok, first of all - don't think so much. just making smalltalk with people every day, all the time, will boost your confidence in meeting people and general self-esteem (cuz you clearly have an problem with that one)
second of all - Where on earth comes the "marrying" part in? Its a fact that you actually aren't gonna marry most of the people you meet in your life, but it does not make the encounters in any way less important or instructive.
Acutally - What are you gonna loose? Seriously? You're miserable as it is, so changing must make it better. Or? If they make fun of you, fine, that's not the end of the world. But it just may be the end of your world if you keep on feeling bad about yourself.
If you're out to get laid, read "the Game" by Neil Strauss, or check out some of David DeAngelos books on picking women up. They may be a bit extreme, but some of the tips in there to overcome shyness and just meeting more people are acutally great.
Finally. Be introverted, but be proud of it. Work on your shyness if it bothers you. You're a thinker and a smart person, why would you accept to listen to your bullcrap about yourself? Know what I mean?
I hope you get some inspiration or help from what I wrote. If not, well, atleast I spoke my mind
