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Originally Posted by Guardian Angel  Hi John! Sorry to hear your story, but as I understand your post, you cannot add problems to your existing ones. Don't give up, man! There are other people who has worst problems than yours. Anyway, I think the best advise I can give you know is energize yourself. If you do, then you can start to think smarter decisions, then consider time management. First things first. Do not cry over a spilled milk. Moreover, take good care of your kids! Use them as your inspiration to move on... |
Eeek! There are people with worse problems than these? These are pretty horrific! Take Angel's advise on taking care of yourself, eating well (canned tuna, raw fruits and veggies do not require any kitchen and will really support you emotionally with all those good vitamins!) and sleeping plenty. If you get sick you will be less able to cope.
I think you need to see your assets as already gone. It might have been a fire or a hurricane, but it wasn't. It was drug abuse. It has been just as devastating. You need to stop focusing on what you are losing and start visualizing yourself rebuilding your life all over. Clean slate. Fresh start. Bankruptcy is a good choice for you. Sell some furniture and antiques so you can pay the attorneys to file for you. Its all just stuff anyway. Sell it off. If you are like the rest of us, you probably needed to de-clutter anyway.
If you haven't already, stop servicing unsecured debt. Close the checking accounts (which are easily seized) and use cash only. Are you ready to move? You will need money for deposits. I suggest catching up the utility bills only (lose the phone) and keep money on hand for healthy food. If you have pets, you may need to find them homes, for now, anyway. Simplify, simplify, simplify.
I also think it would be a good idea for your wife to go live with relatives for a while so you can have some breathing room without her drama constantly draining you. If she does have to do some time, embezzlers get notoriously light sentences (Enron) and would no doubt go to minimum security jail with other non-dangerous women. There is a great deal of effort made to separate the dangerous from the non-dangerous populations.
You are going to find out just how strong you are. You can do this. And don't be afraid to ask your friends for help!
Thinking of you!
GD