Champ,
I know exactly what you're going through, and have experienced quite a few times the situation when you think that your life is finally getting on track and you are begining to enjoy it, everything just falls apart.
What cdn2wheeler said is true, you must give it time to readjust to your loss. But in terms of getting back to yourself, try asking yourself what your lost relationship provided you with that made you feel so happy? Did it make you feel safe and understood, and gave you a reason to look forward to the next day? If so, ask yourself how you can generate that feeling by yourself, without anyone's help. How can you align your life and be completely yourself and happy without having someone else do it for you?
Only when we are able to generate our own happiness, can we adequately share it with someone else. Many times close relationships are band-aids for deeper issues within ourselves, and until we get to the core of them and re-train ourselves to get past them, this cycle will keep repeating itself. Best of luck my friend.
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