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champ21 · 11-01-2007, 07:19 PM

Hey Everyone,

I am new to this forum and have read countless threads already, and I feel that this is an online community full of intelligent and extremely understanding people. I look forward to offering advice where I am able, and of course to receiving the advice I need.

I have been really struggling with life over the past three months. It all started when I got dumped back in the end of July, and ever since then my whole life has been falling apart. Prior to this, I was an extremely social and talkative person. I had a great sense of humor, and was always at ease in social situations. I loved everything about my life and I lived each day to the fullest-- working hard, having fun, being productive, etc. I went to bed with a smile on my face every night, and woke up every morning excited and anxious to start the day. I was proud of myself and excited about my future.

Things have totally fallen apart since then. Im not still upset over my relationship ending, but now what upsets me the most is that I feel I have changed as a person. I have become a shy, timid, insecure person and have isolated myself from everything good in my life. I havent tried to meet any new girls because I dont have any confidence. Even around my friends and family, I have no confidence and am always reluctant to say anything. When I do say something I swear you can hear the nervousness and insecurity in my voice. I used to always be so loose and constantly joking around and having a good time. Now I am so quiet and timid that people must think Im a freakin weirdo. It is driving me crazy, and the harder I try to shake it the more apparent it is. My mind is blank, my feelings are empty. The only emotions I feel are boredom or nervousness--not happy, not angry, not excited. I often reflect on who I used to be (just 3 months ago), and want so bad to be that person again--the person I have been my whole life. I have seen a therapist and I am depressed, but how do I break out of this mess? Its literally driving me crazy. I have put my family through a lot lately, because they know I am extremely unhappy and they miss the old me. I miss the old me, and hate the person that I have become. Im hanging on to dwindling hope that I will once again be the person I used to be. Anybody ever experience something similar? I will give you a big cyber hug if you can help me.

11-01-2007, 07:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
champ21 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 5	Getting back to being yourself Hey Everyone, I am new to this forum and have read countless threads already, and I feel that this is an online community full of intelligent and extremely understanding people. I look forward to offering advice where I am able, and of course to receiving the advice I need. I have been really struggling with life over the past three months. It all started when I got dumped back in the end of July, and ever since then my whole life has been falling apart. Prior to this, I was an extremely social and talkative person. I had a great sense of humor, and was always at ease in social situations. I loved everything about my life and I lived each day to the fullest-- working hard, having fun, being productive, etc. I went to bed with a smile on my face every night, and woke up every morning excited and anxious to start the day. I was proud of myself and excited about my future. Things have totally fallen apart since then. Im not still upset over my relationship ending, but now what upsets me the most is that I feel I have changed as a person. I have become a shy, timid, insecure person and have isolated myself from everything good in my life. I havent tried to meet any new girls because I dont have any confidence. Even around my friends and family, I have no confidence and am always reluctant to say anything. When I do say something I swear you can hear the nervousness and insecurity in my voice. I used to always be so loose and constantly joking around and having a good time. Now I am so quiet and timid that people must think Im a freakin weirdo. It is driving me crazy, and the harder I try to shake it the more apparent it is. My mind is blank, my feelings are empty. The only emotions I feel are boredom or nervousness--not happy, not angry, not excited. I often reflect on who I used to be (just 3 months ago), and want so bad to be that person again--the person I have been my whole life. I have seen a therapist and I am depressed, but how do I break out of this mess? Its literally driving me crazy. I have put my family through a lot lately, because they know I am extremely unhappy and they miss the old me. I miss the old me, and hate the person that I have become. Im hanging on to dwindling hope that I will once again be the person I used to be. Anybody ever experience something similar? I will give you a big cyber hug if you can help me.