Originally Posted by Ati
For example, instead of Jane in accounting to start out with, an intention for "a meaningful relationship" (nice but pretty broad and with no specifically articulated context to the person intending or that person's current environment and circumstances) may well lead to an intention to "naturally and consistently understand what it takes to develop meaningful relationships". That one may lead to an intention to "interact on a daily basis with others in a loving, compassionate, humorous, fun loving, sincere and interested manner which leads me to recognize people who will become truly meaningful to me as I get to know them better', just for example. And then, as Jane (or somebody else) is found to repeatedly make eye contact and smile, well then perhaps an intention to "maintain confidence in my interactions with others so that it is easy to meet people and see what they are about" and so on!
Now, since we have people experiencing success with parking places, perhaps the idea of Jane is not so far fetched. Then, perhaps a specific intention that Jane looks up with smiling eyes might lead to an intention that "when Jane looks at me I easily and confidently smile at her and project both interest and openmindedness, while at the same time, trusting (God, the universe, my intentions, myself) to notice the right things and interact positively.
Thank you so much for answering a question I hadn't found the words to ask yet! This was exactly what I needed to read.
I've always tended to zero in on Jane prematurely, but I do think as I get older and wiser, my Janes get more and more suitable. Who knows, maybe one of the Janes on my current radar may be right -- but if not, even if I start from scratch and go through all the steps outlined above, I'm sure it will be a shorter series of leaps than it would have been fifteen to twenty years ago.
I mean, for people to finally "close the deal" on any relationship, they have to at some point -- hopefully more than a nanosecond prior -- decide to focus a good deal of energy on a specific person. But it only works if that person is doing the same with you; there can't be much imbalance. Maybe small imbalances, like the left and right feet as you climb a ladder. But the right foot can't go all the way up while the left is still on the floor.