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Originally Posted by Marvinq  What about that person's spouse?! What if there are children to feed? What if in perusing your dream you hurt others?
A couple things I left out from my example. That girl left her husband, got a divorce, moved to Los Angeles, found out she was pregnant, had an abortion, didn't tell hubby until it was done. All because she didn't want to ruin her dream of being an A-list actress. I'm not one to stop anyone from fulfilling their dreams, but I still feel there is a need for a dose of reality and common sense. At the time I met her she'd been here a year. No agent, no gigs, no nothing... And look at all the damage she caused in her wake. |
Well, I get that you are outraged by this woman's behavior. And I still stand by what I said -- if you have a dream, and it inspires you enough to do and be something towards your dream, that's a dream that has legs.
Your example woman (let's call her Jezebel) didn't need a dose of reality and common sense. In her reality and her common sense, what she did was the right thing for her to do. What was missing and might have made a difference, for her and for her husband, was integrity (that might be part of why she's not getting any work, too). By the way, don't you think it's possible that divorcing her husband
before she left to pursue this risky dream, rather than forcing him into partnership with her on it, was a generous thing to do?
Unless this was your marriage, you certainly don't know the whole story, so you're evaluation has to be incomplete. It sounds like it might even be a blessing for the ex-husband, who is now free to find a woman who will be a more values-matched partner for him.
Also, whatever your relationship to her, do you think that you are capable of instilling a dose or reality and common sense into her? She is going to make her own choices, just like you are. Why would you want to intervene and make her choices for her?