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Jim11 · 10-31-2007, 02:47 AM

keep doing what you're doing to get to know some new people, and more if possible. Do some activities where you think you may meet people of interest.
Volunteering, book club, sports, pub, cafe, whatever. Just get yourself out there. Do not let ideas such as "I can't go to this pub because a friend of mine might see me there by myself and think I'm pathetic". Just go.

Start talking to strangers. Doesn't have to be women. Just get used to being conversational instead of glancing at people and then quickly shifting your attention to the floor.

Don't be too picky and/or quick to judge. If you meet some people you will meet other people through them, etc.

And most importantly... if you see someone that interests you don't let them slip away. Try and get used to asking people to do things. Male acquaintances, women... whoever. Don't expect things to fall in your lap.

Good luck, Martin. You sound exactly like me a few years ago... right down to the 1.92 m in height. I think what opened me up to new people was simply a shift in attitude, some effort, and some time.

10-31-2007, 02:47 AM	#2 (permalink)
Jim11 Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 213	keep doing what you're doing to get to know some new people, and more if possible. Do some activities where you think you may meet people of interest. Volunteering, book club, sports, pub, cafe, whatever. Just get yourself out there. Do not let ideas such as "I can't go to this pub because a friend of mine might see me there by myself and think I'm pathetic". Just go. Start talking to strangers. Doesn't have to be women. Just get used to being conversational instead of glancing at people and then quickly shifting your attention to the floor. Don't be too picky and/or quick to judge. If you meet some people you will meet other people through them, etc. And most importantly... if you see someone that interests you don't let them slip away. Try and get used to asking people to do things. Male acquaintances, women... whoever. Don't expect things to fall in your lap. Good luck, Martin. You sound exactly like me a few years ago... right down to the 1.92 m in height. I think what opened me up to new people was simply a shift in attitude, some effort, and some time. Last edited by Jim11; 10-31-2007 at 02:49 AM.